Showing posts with label play. Show all posts
Showing posts with label play. Show all posts

The Other Virtues



Memorial day weekend plays a dual role in modern America - offering an opportunity to honor those who died in active military service and ushering in the beginning of the summer holidays. Here's hoping summer offers us all an opportunity to practice the art of playfulness and live in awareness of the great freedom and vulnerability of our humanity.  

Painting, Playing #SmallWonder Link-Up


Sophia asked for art supplies for her tenth birthday and a friend dropped off a huge bag filled to overflowing a few days later.  “I should’ve asked for art supplies for my birthday!” I said, admittedly jealous.  She opened them that night and sprawled them all around the living room floor.  But in the days and weeks after, they sat in her room untouched.    

“When are you going to paint?” I asked the one night after dinner. 

“When I think of something really good to paint,” she said.

“Then you’re never going to do it,” I said.  She huffed and shot me a deflated look. 

“I don’t mean you can’t make something great,” I said, “It’s just, if you wait until you have something great to make, you’ll never do it.” 

She shrugged.

The next time we went to the library I stumbled across a book, Painting Lab for Kids.  Each project focused on a specific skill set.  The ideas were bright, fun, and encouraged experimentation.  I grabbed it for me among the usual stack of Geronimo Stilton and Super Heroes for the boys as well as Sophia’s stack of Nature Encyclopedias.  I looked through my painting book quickly one night before bed and saw Sophia paging through it later the next day.    

Then one random night in the middle of the week I pulled out the book, some hand-me-down canvases, and dug in.  The project I chose involved layering thick swaths of paint in different colors, swirling, then scraping them to make designs.  I tried it once, it was interesting.  I tried again. 

Dipping and scraping, I used an old driver’s license to smear paint, while the kids swirled in and out of the kitchen.    

“What are you making?” they asked.  

“I’m just playing,” I said.  And I was. 

I took a toothpick and carved elaborate flowers in the wet colors.  Then I painted over it, hoping it would somehow show through.  It didn’t and I moved on.  I found a glass jar and began stamping circles, twisting the jar upside-down in two shades of blue.  I liked it, so I kept going.

“What are you doing?” my daughter said.

“I don’t know,” I said.  “I’m just playing.  Why don’t you pick one of the pages and try it too?” 

Miracle of miracles, she did. 

The technique she chose didn’t work terribly well and she grew frustrated, but I kept minding my own business.  “You can always paint over it if you don’t like it,” I said, over and over again. 

Finally, she loosened up.  In the end she found a color scheme she liked, swirling greens, yellows and oranges on the canvas.  She grew pleased with her painting when she stopped forcing it and started playing.  No longer so focused on the outcome, she began to enjoy the process.
 
We were just playing. 


It’s been a week or two since then and I'm feeling the urge to paint again.  I’m eyeing those canvases, wondering if I have the chutzpa to start all over again, painting over the old with something new.  

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Only 16 spaces left!  I'm super excited to be joining with Andi Cumbo-Floyd and Shawn Smucker to organize a weekend writer's retreat this summer at God's Whisper Farm in the beautiful mountains of Virginia.  Visit Andi's website for more info!


Welcome to the #SmallWonder link-up.  


What if we chose to deliberately look for small moments of wonder, the small sparks of presence, of delight or sorrow, of true humanity in which we meet God?  


That's my proposal - that we gather here each week to share one moment of Wonder from each of our days.  You're invited to link-up a brief post about a small moment of wonder.  Don't worry if your post is too long, too short, or not just right - you're welcome to come as you are.  


While you're here, please do take a look around and encourage at least one other blogger with a comment.   


This is My Confession (#SmallWonder Link-Up)


A small group of women sat in a circle.  The question was greeted with silence and I didn’t dare tell the truth.  What would they think?  It’s just not the kind of thing you admit in public.  And besides that, I felt guilty. 

But maybe it’s time now I owned up.

I’m not busy, not in the way most people are.

And, I’m not terribly productive.

I’m happy.

My life is incredibly fun.

I play all of the time.

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After listing seven attributes of play, Laura Boggess, author of Playdates With God, asked the women in our small retreat circle to name ways they already play. 

I thought of my kids – the way they invite me to join them on our hammock-turned-pirate-ship, the games of fishy-fishy-cross-my-ocean that form in the yard.  But it’s not just the kids’ fault.  When they’re gone – at school and preschool – I cut flowers from the garden, I paint and color, I design and make Tiny Books of poetry. 

And I write. 

In the silence that followed Laura’s question, I offered, “Writing's a form of play for me, I think. . . . cooking too.”

Women nodded, smiled.  I didn’t dare add about the coloring, painting, yo-yo fun and Ukulele experiments. 

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It’s a miracle really that I’m having so much fun. 

My personality type's represented by a worker bee and yet, here I am flitting and fluttering about like some kind of butterfly.

Last summer God told me, “I'm going to restore your joy.”

This past weekend, a year and a half after God’s revelation, one of the retreat attendees noted on her evaluation form, “The leaders had a joyful countenance.”

Some secrets can’t be hidden.  The shine, like a light, like a smile on our faces.  If you’re happy and you know it, you won't be able to hide it for long.

That’s why I’m here confessing.

Miracles CAN happen.  Even worker bees can learn to dance.

(And, for your Monday morning happiness boost, click on the video below.  Dancing around is encouraged.)



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Welcome to the #SmallWonder link-up.

What if we chose to deliberately look for the small moments of wonder, the small sparks of presence, of delight or sorrow, of true humanity in which we meet God? 

That's my proposal - that we gather here each week to share one moment of Wonder from each of our days.  

You're invited to link-up a brief post about a small moment of wonder.  Don't worry if your post is too long, too short, or not just right - you're welcome to come as you are.  

While you're here, please do take a look around and encourage at least one other blogger with a comment.       


The Player


The Player

My husband wanted 
a record player.
Why? I asked.

We don’t have ROOM for a record player. 
We don’t NEED a record player. 
We don’t even OWN any records.

Still, every time I browsed local thrift stores 
he asked, Did you see any record players for me?
An icy no was my standard reply.

Where would we PUT a record player? I asked.
Why don’t you ask for one for Christmas? I offered.
 
One night we wandered the Salvation Army 
before heading out to dinner.  I turned my back 
not one minute and, of course, you know what he found.

A record player.
A brown record player.
In a portable plastic case.

He crossed the store grinning, 
that contraption hanging at his side 
like a briefcase. 

It’s only $10, he said.
It’s not even attractive, I whined.

Are you kidding?  
It’s portable.  
It’s awesome, he said.


Then, of course, we had to buy 
some records.  

The Marooner's Stone (#SmallWonder Link-up)


(Welcome to #SmallWonder.  I'm happy you're here. This week I'm re-sharing an old post as I put my time and energy into preparing for a retreat this weekend, co-led with Laura Boggess, "As a Little Child.")  

Wendy knew the story of Marooner's Rock. It was named by evil captains who abandoned sailors there. They would drown when the rising tide covered them.  

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Soon after the dinghy was gone, two feeble cries drifted over the lagoon. "Help! Help!" Peter and Wendy lay on top of the rock. Peter was wounded, and Wendy was tired and weak. . . .

"We have to get off the rock," Peter said. "The tide is rising. Soon we will be covered."  

"I am too tired to swim or to fly," Wendy said weakly. 

"And I don't have the strength to carry both of us," Peter moaned.  

"Then we will drown," Wendy said.

They put their hands over their eyes to shut out the horrible thought.

Something touched Peter's cheek. He opened his eyes. A kite hovered over the rock. Its lone tail had brushed Peter's face. "Michael's kite!" Peter exclaimed. "He lost it the other day, but here it is!" He pulled the kite toward him. "We shall use it to carry us home."

                                                        - from Peter Pan, by J.M. Barrie

It's only Monday, but, already, I feel the water rising.

There’s too little time, too little money, too little of me to go around and I’m stacking sandbags in my mind, guarding against the scarcity of my own limitations.

There are days when it feels like I live on Marooners' Rock, days when it feels that the tide is constantly rising, slowly licking at the small space I've secured.

But at least I'm in good company, because so many of us live this way, don't we?

Believing the lie of too little, we hold our breath, shrinking back from the shrinking shore, moving from crisis to crisis as, surely, the water rises.

Like Peter and Wendy, we are tired, we are weak and many of us are wounded.

"We will drown," I say with certainty as I seal the envelopes that carry the checks to the electric company, the phone and natural gas.

"I am too tired," I say as I climb the stairs again to face the fussy child who will. not. sleep.

"I don't have the strength to carry both of us," I think, as I look at the long and weary face of my tired husband whose head aches nearly every night of the week.

Isn't it illuminating that deliverance for Peter and Wendy comes not in the form of increased strength or personal exertion, but rather in the playful and gentle nudge of Michael’s kite?   

Most often, when I grow weary of my self-imposed exile on Marooner’s Rock and finally, at last, lay my head down in surrender, grace and deliverance arrives disguised as the gentle voice of playfulness, the invitation to imagination and creativity.   

The more I tend playfulness through prayer and creativity, the more I’m able to reject the lie of Marooner’s Rock.  The truth is we're not abandoned, we're not alone, there's always Someone waiting to carry us home. 

Playfulness requires trust and surrender, a willingness to live openly and unabashedly hopeful in the sheer goodness of the moment and it’s here that we find deliverance, here that we find a wind strong enough, gentle enough to carry us home.

Is there a practice of playfulness or creativity that helps you find your way home?  I'd love to hear about it in the comments . . .

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Welcome to the #SmallWonder link-up.

What if we chose to deliberately look for the small moments of wonder, the small sparks of presence, of delight or sorrow, of true humanity in which we meet God? 

That's my proposal - that we gather here each week to share one moment of Wonder from each of our days.  

You're invited to link-up a brief post about a small moment of wonder.  Don't worry if your post is too long, too short, or not just right - you're welcome to come as you are.  

While you're here, please do take a look around and encourage at least one other blogger with a comment.  


A Spacious Place: Memorial Day and Freedom (#SmallWonder Link-Up)


O the deep, deep love of Jesus, vast, unmeasured, boundless, free! - hymn by Samuel Trevor Francis

We had a gathering of new faces here at the old farmhouse Saturday.  Vans packed with kids started pulling in at six o'clock and little people unloaded and scattered across the yard faster than the chickens they chased.  

The porch of a house always feels like a warm space to me and the way this one wraps around makes me think of a wide smile.  We set two picnic tables out in the space of that smile and ate meals in the up-and-down shifts of young parents - standing and sitting, stopping and starting as kids ran out of, refused, or spilled food.  Later, when the sun was waning and a chill settled into the air, parents gathered kids from all corners of the house and yard.  One girl was found a good thirty feet up in a pine tree, just sitting on a branch refusing to come down. 

Kids take to this spacious place like it's their native home, running wide and far while the grown-ups tend to hover close to the house.  Often, leaving my work for a while, I find the twins off in some far corner of the yard, running knee-deep in cut grass or playing a secret game on one of the many wood piles.  

Somewhere along the path we call "growing up" many of us forget how to live in - by which I mean not just to own, but to enjoy to its fullest - a good and spacious place.  We build walls - or life builds them for us - hemming ourselves in to little plots of work and responsibility.  A small plot of life offers the advantage of perceived control and yet something within the very heart of us is lost - a soul that was meant to soar in freedom lives out its days with wings clipped.  

This is not what God intends for us.  God's love is "deep and wide" as the children's song reminds us, "vast, unmeasured, boundless, free" as the hymn declares.  This love is the spacious place in which we live and move and have our being (Acts 17).

This Memorial Day I'm remembering my Grandfathers who fought in WWII to maintain some measure of freedom - to ensure that their children and grandchildren would live in both physical and intellectual freedom, un-penned-in by tyranny and oppression.  As I remember, I wonder how many of us have forgotten how to live in the freedom that was and is won and maintained at such great cost?  How many of us have exchanged our freedom for the yoke of some new ideology or economic stability?

Our earthly freedom, of course, is a dim shadow of the freedom we have in Christ - freedom also bought and maintained at a great cost and yet bestowed on us as a free gift.  The biblical story, though, is one of a people continually giving up their freedom, handing over the keys to prisons built of law and perceived safety.  

"For freedom Christ has set us free.  Stand firm, therefore, and do not submit again to the yoke of slavery," Paul tells the Galatians (5:1).

A good many people will spend this day gathered around picnic tables discussing the state of the world and arguing on behalf of their own dimly perceived solutions - more law, more war, more walls.  We are right to be concerned and yet, I want to suggest we look elsewhere for solutions today.

Maybe we could follow the lead of our children and live in freedom for a few minutes or hours.  Join them splashing in the water, building moats and dams out of sand, catch a worm, build an imaginary kingdom, run yelling across a wide field or simply lay down in the grass and watch the clouds for a while as though nothing is riding on us.  

We have to practice living in freedom to best know how to maintain it.  

I will do my best to leave the house today, to set aside the work and venture into the far corners of our yard.  Maybe I'll climb the pine tree, maybe I'll ride the rope swing and feel my stomach drop or catch a chicken and sit with it for a while soaking in the sun.  

May you also find yourself captured by and living in the wonder of the freedom that is yours today.  Happy Memorial Day, friends.  

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Welcome to the #SmallWonder link-up.

What if we chose to deliberately look for the small moments of wonder, the small sparks of presence, of delight or sorrow, of true humanity in which we meet God? 

That's my proposal - that we gather here each week to share one moment of Wonder from each of our days.  

You're invited to link-up a brief post about a small moment of wonder.  Don't worry if your post is too long, too short, or not just right - you're welcome to come as you are. 

While you're here, please do take a look around and encourage at least one other blogger with a comment.      



Even More Undignified (a Poem and a Playdate)



What is serious to men is often trivial in the sight of God. What in God might appear to us as "play" is perhaps what He Himself takes most seriously. At any rate, the Lord plays and diverts himself in the garden of His creation, and if we could let go of our own obsession with what we think is the meaning of it all, we might be able to hear His call and follow Him in His mysterious, cosmic dance. . . . we are invited to forget ourselves on purpose, cast our awful solemnity to the winds, and join in the general dance." - Thomas Merton in New Seeds of Contemplation

“I will become even more undignified than this.” - King David regarding his dancing half-naked in the streets (2 Samuel 6:22).  

You ride in large loops circling 
the L-shaped curve of the driveway. 
Perched on your tall, blue bike,
it's pedal, pedal, pedal, coast and turn 
in that small space under the Indian-summer 
sky.  There’s a kitten zipped into your hoodie, 
black face and whiskers peaking out as you 
pedal, pedal, pedal, coast and turn. 

Right there, between the green grass 
and ceiling of blue, you feel the freedom 
and joy that has been missing for too long.  
Not only do you feel it but, for once, 
you value it, holding it as a prize, 
a pearl of great price.  The Day Care parents 
come and go next door, moving from work 
to work and you – soaring under the golden 
sky, the soft fur of a sweet being warm 
against your chest – you don’t care who sees.   

Laura Boggess' new book Playdates with God: Hvaing a Childlike Faith in a Grownup World was released this week.  Are you ready to meet God with the heart of a child?  Visit her blog where she is blogging 31 Days of Playdates  for the month of October.

 This is our other kitten, all zipped up happy and snug in my hoodie while I work on cooking dinner.  The other night she sat on my shoulder for a long time watching me peel potatoes.  The joy of kittens is restoring, for me, some of the joy of my childhood and for that I'm deeply grateful. 

Playdates With God (Book Review)


Laura Boggess' weekly link-up, Playdates With God was one of the first I discovered when I started blogging back in 2012.  Since then I've been a devoted follower of both her writing and her community.  I'm very excited to share with you the much anticipated release of her book, Playdates with God.

Here's what I had to say about Playdates in my review on Amazon:

Laura tells the story of the invitation she received to become "like a little child." Drawn by God, she explores and opens herself to a world of wonder, presence and deep joy and, in her telling, we find ourselves also invited, led and drawn into the depths. Laura's prose is poetic and her experiences of care-free play are balanced by deep and broad research into the bible, science, and psychology. Scripture says, "a little child shall lead them," Laura is one of those little ones, leading us all into deeper presence and joy as followers of a playful, loving God.  

Laura's heart is that of a poet, a mystic and, above all, a devoted follower of God.  If you find yourself lost and numb in your faith, hoping to rediscover a sense of wonder and belovedness, maybe the answer isn't more work, more striving, more sacrifice, but actually more play.  

I want to invite you to check out what others are saying about this book at Amazon and to consider ordering it NOW as I'm hoping it will be the next book discussed in our Field of Wild Flowers Book Club
beginning in January. 

Laura is also blogging daily Playdates over at her blog for the entire month of October.  Visit her there to get a taste of her wonder and deep ability to sense and communicate the presence of God in daily life.